Thursday, January 19, 2012

Why Does Your Body Ignore, What Your Mind Says




90% of the women I know, Beautiful and Single. 90% of the women I know. Are independent and 100% of women I know, all been hurt before.

Women make the world go round. Women are the strongest creatures on earth. Besides  lions, tigers and bears. .. We  have the mental and physical strength to endure a lot of pain.
 We have  the power for all choices we make with the opposite sex. Geesh .. being a woman is a lot of Work!! All we desire is a good mate. Stability in a relationship, Lots and lots of LOVE!! The main woman who expresses the opposite desires, usually the main one truly scorn. We fall so deeply infatuated with the physical attributes of a man, sometimes for sexual and “company “ desires, company meaning someone to talk to- good conversation nothing more nothing less , nothing serious we tell ourselves, no time for love, it’s just what it is a good friend. We fall so deep emotionally with a man and tell ourselves,  "He is the one, no question about it." .. and get hurt later on.
Statistics have stated, 70% of  African American women are single and 42% not married.  Personally I recognize there many women from all races single and not married. I believe African American women,  make choices at an early age, early twenties or even younger in their lives to be in the company of a man. In college or not, we love hard. We tend to try our hardest “ stick it out” with our significant other. Our focus is never fully on us. We ‘re either taking care of kids, that we had  along the way, or  trying to create a happy home, when reality is we’re trying to create something or someone  that is not for us.  This has lead for many African American women, to finally  become their own leader. Have an attitude that has been hurt before, tired, and stressed. Now all women not just Black women, have an” I can do it all by myself” attitude. It’s more like “ I have no time for BS, and don’t waste my time “ attitude.
God created a woman to be the loving wife, the caring mother, the person that holds her home together. Man and Woman are one. When we disrespect ourselves, our bodies as women we are accountable for that, we have the power in every relationship. We have allowed a man to control on the actions that are taken, when the truth is WE as WOMEN have the power to control the actions that SHOULD be taken. We make decisions who we marry,  to go on that date,  allow him in your home,  kiss you, hug you, call you, and love you. Women are Leaders in their own right.
 Abusive relationships, verbal relationships, even cheating relationships, as women we see the signs way before it gets ugly, we have women intuition, we ignore it due to being emotional and very blinded by what we think is love. Sometimes we don’t see the signs until years later, but we have the power to leave something so wrong, so unhealthy, so not for us.
I’ve met women who totally use their body for fulfillment of sex only all the time , with different partners, and no stable relationship, and their OK with this. People always say every woman is not made to be in a relationship. That’s a total lie in my ears, for the simple fact it goes back in time how and why we were created. The woman who does that is a true lost soul, and is yearning for someone, in need of something to make her live. Live independently, live freely.To make independent and wise decisions, to love herself wholeheartedly, love her mind, body and spirit, for she is beautiful. She’s a prize possession.

A true Queen.
Judge not, we all have failed in being destined to becoming a true virtuous woman

Peace and Love –  ALL my Queens

MB 

Monday, January 16, 2012

That Was Refreshing




Ahhhhhh it’s like finally drinking a full glass of ice cold water, on a very hot Day.  My blogs have focused on insecurities, and self –worth. I’ve accomplished by expressing this in so many ways in my stories. Glad you’ve enjoyed reading, happy you understood, and content that its closure. From all my obstacles, hurt, pain, struggles,  high moments,  and crazy spontaneous episodes in my life.  I’m fully satisfied.
               
  I ‘m excited for my new adventure, my  nights to share more on what life brings, the reality of people and the motivation on what is to come. More blogs, total different topics. Enlightening,  yet encouraging, sensitive, and real. Honest and truth. Dedication and facts. No nonsense no bore. Just reality. That is simply.. Refreshing.

Peace and Love.
God bless YOU .

MB

Thursday, January 12, 2012

SHAM


When you do things, do not let selfishness or pride be your guide. Instead, be humble and give more honor to others than yourselves. Do not be interested only in your own life, but be interested in the lives of others. – the greatest book written Philippians 2: 3-4

Shame. Shame on those..  For acting like a total SHAM. Every writer has a way of writing, Every artist have a way of expressing. So apology not needed, this is who I am. This is how I am. I share topics of motivation, I share topics that help me deal with situations, I share topics that are real  life events, I share topics that allows someone from another country to  consistently daily read my blogs, receive emails from those who have been suicidal, lost, or unhappy, I help them get through their storm. For that Im grateful.

I’ve shared this so many times I’m sure if you follow me on any of my social networking pages, you've read my vents.  Everyone notices  those lack of... Shall I say of security? Worth? Motivation? Love? 

We've all been surrounded by certain types of human beings that present themselves and act a certain way, that leads to questionable motives, etc. . I can sit here and say I’m perfect, no issues, and no problems at all. I would be lying. The fact is I know my flaws, I'm daily working on them. 

Manipulative people are the most wicked souls, anytime you're around an individual for what they can do for you, how much money they gain, or just for temporary purposes that have no sincere reasoning, that's  a manipulative selfish human being. Anytime you notice that everyone you consider yourself socially interactive  with, talk about their own peers behind their back daily all the time, but smile and hang out with them daily you’re a manipulative selfish human being, and of course those who follow and never lead, just lost. Or in general have motives for actions they take. .Some of my choices and actions haven't always been smart., from the people I’ve hung out with or considered a good friend, or even when I dated and it wasn’t serious. But at the end of the day,  I recognize what is best for me. Especially for women, and we wonder why the HIV rate is so high in America. Listen to the songs that are being played, no respect. Because people don’t respect themselves.

People will live a lifestyle they know they can’t afford, to cover up the fact their completely unhappy and try to satisfy everyone by their fake lifestyle. It’s called a Sham. False advertisement, not genuine, not real. FAKE. Even relationships you’re in a relationship that is wrong. Not real, either it be an intimate “ so- called” committed relationship, or even a fake friendship. People choose to socialize with certain individuals for a reason, and at times surround themselves with people they don’t even trust. SHAM.
Do ME a favor either it be a friendship, or even a relationship.  Surround yourself with Positive. Happy. Focused. Sincere. Loving People. Simple. . even if you’re not religious read the best book ever written, if you’re not prayerful, start praying for those in your life, and even out of it. If you’re not content, learn to be grateful. If you’re not successful, claim to be, and allow God to bring the right people on your level or above to motivate you. Nothing saddens me to read, talk to someone that has a good heart, but walk an evil path. I’m blessed beyond measure. My life has given me the opportunity to simply live and learn. And live and LOVE
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Because God has given me a special gift, I have something to say to everyone among you. So not think you are better than you are. You must decide what you really are by the amount of faith God has given you. Each one of us has a body with many parts, and these parts belong to all the other parts. We all have different gifts, each of which came because of the grace God gave us. The person who has the gift of prophecy should use that gift in agreement with the faith. Anyone who has the gift of serving should serve. Anyone who has the gift to teach should teach. Whoever has the gift of encouraging other should encourage. Whoever has the gift  of giving to others should give freely. Anyone who has the gift of being a leader should try hard when he leads. Whoever has the gift of showing mercy to others should do so with joy. Your LOVE must be REAL. HATE what is EVIL. And HOLD on to what is GOOD.  Romans 3:9.

Peace and Love
MB